INITIATORS OF PEACE
As an initiator of peace you must consider the following:
Who wins the argument at your house?
Who initiates it?
Have you been making derogatory remarks about your husband to the children, his friends or family?
Do you stand ready to respond with anger when he lashes at you?
Is it more important to you that you win the argument or make peace?
Is it more important to prove your point if you are right?
Do these words sound familiar to you?
Kids go to your room your father is coming
Hurry pick up this or that, stay quiet, don't say anything when he comes through that door
Don't tell your father anything
You know him already
You argue for everything
I can't say anything to him
.............
It's a fussing and a fighting time after time. Nothing you do seems to please him, there's always a peace electrician because of the short fuse, no patience, he yells about and for everything, you can't do anything right for him, he is always arguing, you are afraid to speak when something is wrong, he attempts to or even hits you, easily angered, speaks rough to the children and to you in the home or out in public, displays his temper/tantrum, evil and bad minded, always angry with himself or a walking volcano ready to irrupt, always have to find something to fuss about, loves to argue with his friends, has major outburst or fights on the job, every conversation ends in argument-
This is Chaos - Let's bring on a calm -Pray today's prayer quickly!
TODAY'S PRAYER
Pray that your husband will be patient and a man of peace. Pray that he will not give in to anger, but will allow the Holy Spirit to control his responses. (Rom. 14:19; Ps. 34:14)
These prayer scriptures will stop every act of evil and sin. You should always find a way to seek peace and make your home a place of serenity. You make the choice to respond and heat up the argument or pursue peace. The choice is yours!
TODAY'S FOCUS: FOLLOW AFTER PEACE
Romans 14:19 (KJV)
Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another.
This scripture is a road map to peace. It takes one who is peaceful to follow the things that are of peace. If you are usually a trouble maker, very argumentative or loves a good argument you cannot make things of peace.
Be a good example to your husband by being a peaceful person yourself. If you engage in the conversations above and or guilty of the questions asked then you won't be able to edify or correct your husband. So how about being an initiator of peace and do something to bring calm in your house? Let's do it!
ACTIVITY:
Today, be a carrier of peace. Do something sweet for your husband - set a peaceful atmosphere. You can try one of these or come up with one of your invigorating ideas. Do them as genuine as possible. Don't demand but encourage,and please don't attempt to do them in the middle of an argument.
- Prepare a nice aromatic bath
- Make a soothing cup of tea (chamomile, lavender, sleepy time...)
- Put some lavender, eucalyptus or other oil on his pillow or temples
- Give a massage or rub
- Read or play peaceful scriptures to him
- Put on sweet soft calming music
- Light scented candles
- Dim your lights or put soft colored lights in your room or an area
- Other ideas....
Remember, don't fight fire with fire but with the word in prayer! Be the fire extinguisher, and hit it at the base. (not with your hot mouth) Encourage your children to respect their father. Don't discuss him with others or speak to or about him in a negative way. Set the atmosphere by being an initiator of peace.
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Make it a I will hold my peace and help bring a calm to my husband day!
All for a better relationship and an exciting life! #twigs30dayshusbandchallenge
God Bless you and Keep The Faith!
Virtuous Jewel
What do you do when you feel like you're always the one initiating peace? When you feel like your peace-making is taken for granted?
ReplyDeleteRemember, there is a blessing that comes with it. Blessed are the peacemakers for they shall be called the children of God. It's not conditional. It's also important for you own benefit most times. Even if the other party may not see the need or in the wrong. Have you ever had an argument and the other person is quite comfortable, and you are all shaken up? You are miserable and the person has moved on. In the flesh it can be a bit challenging but use wisdom and view from a healthy and spiritual prospective. Praying the scripture above will bring that individual in compliance. Scripture states that when our ways please God (praying etc) even our enemies will be at peace with us! Do your part and watch God!
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