DAY 12 DUE BENEVOLENCE - 30 DAY PRAYING FOR YOUR HUSBAND CHALLENGE

SEX MATTERS

Big topic, difficult subject, but just as important as money matters.  Important enough to make it a matter of prayer. 

Let's face it - Sexual intimacy along with money matters are most times at the core of many of the problems in our marriages. Most times it's a mix. No sex no money or no money no sex. In some cases, it's either too much, too little, non at all or it's being shared with others outside of the marriage. 

SISTERS SEX MATTERS and should be a high priority in your marriage.  Some of you may say, it's not an issue for me, others- my husband is not interested, I don't like sex, I don't enjoy it, a lack of romance issues, cultural preferences, or unfortunately some of you may be dealing with infidelity and other sexual abuse in your relationship.  

Now that I've gotten your attention and you're a little more relaxed, LET'S PRAY....

TODAY'S PRAYER
Pray that your husband will yield his sexual drive to the Lord and practice self control. Pray that your sexual intimacy together will be fresh, positive, and a reflection of selfless love. (Prov. 5:15, 18; 1 Cor. 7:3; Song of Solomon 7:10)

This blog will not be able to address every area of sexual intimacy.  However, if you are experiencing extra marital affairs or any other breakdown due to unfaithfulness, pornography etc...   Pray Proverbs 5:15 (KJV)

Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.

Some women feel alone and starve for the affection and expressive love of their husbands. If you are experiencing loneliness within your marriage or do not have the attention you rightfully deserve- he works too hard or spends too much time in ministry and neglects you etc... Pray Proverbs 5:18(KJV)

Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.

As a woman, God has given you special skills in the area of sexual intimacy, but the heavy duties of motherhood, ministry, work and just the daily routines of life make you put that on the low priority list. Let's face it chances are after a rough day when you're pooped you just want pillowband and sleepband and not a husband.  Besides the fact that sexual intimacy with your spouse is a proven sleeping aid, it is an important and essential requirement of your marital covenant.  (I can hear some of you saying, "for my husband not for me" cause I'm wide awake after it's over and he's the one who rolls over snores and goes to sleep)

TODAY'S TOPIC:  RENDERING DUE BENEVOLENCE

Men have their faults and can be selfish, greedy, inconsiderate and a host of other ........ when it comes to sex, but let's address some issues for the sake of the Praying for Your Husband Challenge?  
1 Corinthians 7:3 (KJV)

Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

As a wife you require affection, attention and adoration. The same is true for your husband. In reference to the scripture and our challenge let's consider:

• Have you complemented your husband lately?
• Have you done anything romantic for or with him recently?
• Are you holding out on sexual intimacy?
• How often is it done?
• Are you avoiding intimacy?
• Do you tell your husband your love him regularly?
• What are some of your excuses for it not happening?
• Do you spend time or take a vacation just for two?
• Are you an initiator?
• Do you see sex as a chore or a pleasurable delight and reward of marriage?
• Do you celebrate your husband in that area?

These questions and others are of great importance as many problems arise from most or all of them. While they shouldn't use this as an excuse, avoiding sexual intimacy with your husband will cause various challenges for your marriage including extra marital affairs or a cold and non-interested spouse.

Your body is not your own - It belongs to your husband especially in that area. Not that you no longer have control over your body, but you must submit to flow with the scripture above and allow your husband to have access to his own cistern.

You have the same pleasure - His body belongs to you. Don't starve yourself waiting for your husband. Initiate the act of sexual intimacy sometimes. Seduce him, give him a reason to come home from an early morning encounter. Let your phone calls include a little promise for later or other romantic gestures or an I love you.

ACTIVITY:
I know that I put you on a budget a couple days ago, but you can use your creativity and do something intimately special with your husband this evening or over the weekend.  Plan something romantic that does not include anyone else but you two.  It does not have to something that involves money..
A simple walk hand in hand down the street, a drive to a nice scenery talking about you and how to enhance your sexual intimacy. (No work, children or church talk) If you can afford it have a romantic dinner for two at a restaurant or spend and evening at a hotel with each other.  Use your imagination and don't make it all missionary or savage, but take time with each other and rediscover your treasures of "Due Benevolence!" 
One last thing...
How do you react when your husband does not or cannot satisfy your sexual desire?  Do you encourage him or criticize him?  Think of your children when they fall, how do they react to your encouragement or when you stretch your hand out to help and let them know that you are there for them.  Your husband needs your encouragement.  Give him the help he needs and let him enjoy you.
Don't use the excuse of, "it's the time of the month" or "he's off island to get away from your activity- but give your husband a Redeemable Love Coupon that has no expiration date.

Remember,as you look deeply into 1 Cor 7:3 you will see it's a vice-versa thing. Just as you require the attention, love and other niceties so does your husband. If you are challenged in this area play your part, and pray the scriptures to help bring change and or maintain the fire of intimacy in your marriage. Do what it takes to keep your husband happy and keep his eyes on his prize - YOU!  

Give it your best shot my sisters, use your imagination and creativity.

Make it a night, a day or weekend to remember!
All for a better relationship and an exciting life!

God Bless You and Keep The Faith!

Virtuous Jewel