DAY 29 BIRTHING - 30 DAY PRAYING FOR YOUR HUSBAND CHALLENGE

SECRET DESIRES

As women you wish that your mate would measure up to others in his league or even as your girlfriend's husband. You compare his skills, his ability to provide, his career type and even his spiritual talents.  You secretly wish, fantasize and dream about him as someone else. There are many what ifs, suppose he, wish he would, wish he could etc.... Many secret desires lie within your heart as you watch daily the man that you married become more laid back than ever with his career, dreams and spiritual mission.  

Perhaps you are satisfied because you have a lucrative job and prominent position or you just couldn't be bothered because he pays the bills and does what you demand.  Is he being taken advantaged of by others, discouraged by you, his family and friends, or is his niceness keeping him from achieving and or accomplishing his own dreams and desires? 

In the process are you.....

Critical or condemning?

Pushy or bossy?

Belittling his position, income or career?

Implementing your own will and desires on him?

Speaking bad about his ability to do or not to do with others?

Do you accuse and judge him?

Embarrass of him?

Wishing that he could preach, teach, sing or be like the other spiritual leaders you know?

Are you asking, when is he going to move or get going? Let's pray...

TODAY'S PRAYER - (Revive Your Heart by Nancy Leigh DeMoss)
Pray that your husband will surrender his time and talents to the Lord. Pray that his spiritual gifts will be manifest in his career, at church, and in your home. (Eph. 5:15-16; 1 Cor. 12:4, 7)

Begin today's prayer by asking God to forgive you in the areas where you have not been kind, apologize to your husband if need be and tell him that you would like to help him bring to life his dreams and desires. It will profit you in the long run and reap many coveted rewards. 

TODAY'S TOPIC - BE A MIDWIFE

Midwives are very important to the delivery of a baby.  As the midwife stands as coach, looks for signs of harm to the baby and the mother.  As a wife you are a midwife ("help meet") and play a vital role in the birthing of your husband's "baby." Let's look to today's prayer scriptures.  While they are designed to be prayed for your husband, let's look at it from the midwife prospective:

SEEK TO BE WISE-

Encourage your husband to pursue academic interest, technical, skill or apprentice process to  achieve wisdom and knowledge so he will be able to act and perform in accordance to that desire or goal. 

Ephesians 5:15-16 (KJV)
See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise,
Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.

IDENTIFY THE GIFT 

Review his strengths in areas that he is talented and gifed, and get him help or training (ie.. Musical- purchase the instrument or get lessons) Let him practice on the things he is good at and give him a chance to perfect it.

1 Corinthians 12:4 (KJV)
Now there are diversities of gifts, but the same Spirit.

USE GIFTS TO BLESS GOD AND BENEFIT OTHERS

The world is calling the talents of the church into the world.  Many of the gifted folks in church came from the secular world, and most of our men have left the church and are now using their gifts to profit themselves and fulfill their lust and desires of the flesh.  Help him cultivate a passionate desire for God and His kingdom so he can use his talents for the glory of God.  

1 Corinthians 12:7 (KJV)
But the manifestation of the Spirit is given to every man to profit withal.

ACTIVITY 

Be thankful that you are blessed with a husband and stop wishing secretly that he is what he is not.  Meet him and accept him for who he is and where he is.  Begin by identifying what your husband is good at, identify his skill, and interest, write them down.  Then list what you can do as a midwife or what you can both do together to help him birth, rediscover or maintain that gift.  

Find someone in the bible that speaks to you that has mentored or help someone "birth their baby."  Make a list of spiritual or natural midwives you know and watch their skills and strategies. (ie. Elijah, Naomi etc...)

Be patient, Rome was not built in a day, and you too had to go through a process before you arrived.   Know also that there are so many who are wishing to have what you have, and would like to trade places or even steal what you have.  The delivery should come after completing all the trimesters.  Anything forced or rushed will be pre-mature or still born.  That could be just as bad or even worse than his previous state. 

Remember, in these difficult times be careful how you act and behave. God has given you special abilities and gifts by His Spirit. The Holy Spirit displays God’s power through each of you as a means of helping your husband, family, church and community.   As midwives, (help meets) you have the God given ability to help birth your husband into purpose for God's glory!  Use that talent as a wise woman and build your husband up let that baby come forth and become a witness and a testimony of life to many!

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Virtuous Jewel

DAY 28 PRAYER TIME - 30 DAY PRAYING FOR YOUR HUSBAND CHALLENGE

FERVENT PRAYERS

Prayer is the way you communicate with God.  It is the channel through which your request, needs and desires are transmitted for you, your family and others.  Pray often, pray to guard you from trouble and temptation and pray for others so God can heal you.

James 5:16 (KJV)
Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.

How do you feel about confessing your faults to someone? 
How can Healing come from doing that?
What can it avail?

TODAY'S PRAYER - (Revive Your Heart by Nancy Leigh DeMoss)

Pray that your husband will be a man of prayer. Pray that he will seek and pursue God in purposeful quiet times. (1 Thess. 5:17; Luke 22:46; James 5:16)

Pray that prayer for victory if he turns on the TV, plays games or goes on Facebook/internet before he prays, does not pray for and or with you and the children, uses vain repetitions, perform routine prayers, does not think he should pray over his food, feels prayer should be reserved for church and private times only, he rushes and does not know how to lie still and or have quiet moments in prayer.

TODAY'S FOCUS: QUIET TIME

Your husband may be challenged with time due to his busy schedule. He also struggles with praying for situations and may resort to silence. He may prefer to discuss and or complain to others instead of praying.

Fear and guilt may be the cause of his resistance.  

Quiet times are just as important as praying. In prayer you do the talking, but quiet times give you the opportunity for God to speak into your heart and spirit. Quiet times should follow after praying or just stealing away whenever you can to sit in God's presence and escape.  What other benefits do you believe it brings?

Are you leading by example or are your complaining that he doesn't?
Do you spend quality and quiet time with God?

Have you set up your quiet space suggested in our previous post? 

Are you encouraging others to a life of prayer?

What are you doing to assist him?

ACTIVITY
Allow your husband to have a place that he can go to retreat without interference or noise for spiritual connection.  
Set up a secret place or prayer altar - make it spiritual but relaxing. Include meditation/soft praise/worship music, soft lights/candles, fountain, devotional and other books, plaques, plants etc..
Keep the children and avoid distractions (phone, TV etc..)
Encourage your husband to bless you and the children.

Make time for prayer with your husband and the family daily. Let him take the role in leading or reading a devotion or scripture with you. It may be difficult or challenging if he is not saved, a praying person or one who likes to pray out loud. However, suggest a prayer time that suits his schedule or style. It does not have to be a long session to discourage him, but a moment done daily will become a lifestyle.

Remember, do not throw your righteousness around but use your fervent prayer to avail great results. Be constant in prayer, do not interrupt or criticize his praying skills, but become a woman of habit- rise early and pray demonstrating humility and kindness. Pray so you can be guarded from temptation. Know that effective prayer also include praying for others. Be faithful in prayer!

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Virtuous Jewel

DAY 27 A HEALTHIER YOU - 30 DAY PRAYING FOR YOUR HUSBAND CHALLENGE

TRANSFORMING THE MIND

A "Seefood" Diet is a diet that you eat all you see!  

Challenged by food and even though one is full, their mind says they are hungry.  So therefore, a transformation must take place to accomplish change and be able to present your bodies Holy and Acceptable 

Romans 12:1-2 (KJV)
I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

Ask God to refresh your mind and think of things that are pure and holy. Meditate on the things and pleasures of God.  Don't engage in bad eating habits, but eat foods from the group and categories that are healthy and nutritious.  Make your health a priority to exercise, follow medical advice and or other procedures.  Bad eating habits can cause terminal diseases, but it can also limit the quality of life.

TODAY'S PRAYER - (Revive Your Heart by Nancy Leigh DeMoss)
Pray that your husband will understand the importance of taking care of his body—the temple of the Holy Spirit—for the glory of God. Pray that he will practice self-control by making wise food choices, and get sufficient exercise to stay healthy. (Rom. 12:1-2; 1 Cor. 6:19-20, 9:27)

Your body must also be brought in line.  Exercise regularly to insure your blood circulation, Blood pressure, metabolism are in within the normal guidelines.  Practice good hygiene and good moral principles. You cannot preach or teach on wellness if you are overweight and unhealthy yourself.  Here's what the word says....

1 Corinthians 9:27 (KJV)
But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.

TODAY'S FOCUS:  YOUR BODY IS THE TEMPLE

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 (KJV)
What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?
For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.

Your body is the temple of God and the dwelling place of The Holy Spirit. You should not only be concerned about your spiritual health, but also make wise and healthy food choices for the proper nourishment of your body to avoid sickness and diseases. Temples that are sick and unhealthy are challenged in the spirit as well.  They won't be able to worship, pray or do much for the Lord physically. 

ACTIVITY
A sick man cannot worship God in spirit and in his body. He will be limited to do things both spiritually and physically.  Some situations may be genetic or already existing condition even before you met him, but today make his health a priority. 
Take time out to cook healthier meals
Watch intake of sodium, sugar, starch/carbohydrates and unhealthy fats etc...
Don't eat and drink with your meals
Don't eat late at night or go to bed right after eating
Make time for exercise and relaxation
Get a gym membership (if you can afford or a start of boost program)
Encourage annual physical or a doctor visit for analysis
Fast often or skip a meal
Do body cleanses as needed
Take prescribed medication as instructed

Do you need to lose weight or make healthier choices yourself?

Then start with you. Start a health challenge for the family.  Make it a point of exercising regularly. Go on a fast and plan a fasting schedule once a week or month.  Set days for low calorie meals or skip a meal
Make it a point to take your/his meds until you get your healing and or health restored.  

Remember, God wants you and your husband to glorify Him not just in spirit but in body. Your prayer would help him to present his body as a reasonable and acceptable sacrifice.   The body belongs to God, and it must be conditioned and maintained.  It begins with a transformation of the mind- not just eating the right foods, but eat correctly. Unhealthy habits can affect not just one person, but can place undue stress on the other due to health issues.  You were bought with a price.  
  

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DAY 26 PURPOSE - 30 DAY PRAYING FOR YOUR HUSBAND CHALLENGE

OPEN YOUR MOUTH WITH WISDOM

Are you? Are the following words part of your daily prayer and speech?

What good are you to me?

He never finishes anything?

When are you going to?

I can do better by myself?

Others? 

These and many more are a hindrance to the changes we long to see. Here's how the wise man puts it in Proverbs 31: 26

"She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness."

Do you watch over the well being of your spouse and household or are you critical and uses statements that will cause him to fail? Are you saying thins like...?

You will get a stroke or...when he makes bad food choices or habits?

You gonna bankrupt us?

You'll be dead by the time you.....?

Why can't you be like....husband?

I am not doing your job for you?

Refuse to get up and help when you can?

Are you laid back and lazy?

Wisdom from the man of wisdom states in Proverbs 31:27

"She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness."

It may be challenging as you look around the house and see the many projects and task that he has started and that are still incomplete. T

here maybe the unwise investments that once was a good idea, but he has not been touched them in a while or still wrapped up in the package it came in (the car he bought or other items that he would fix and sell, the electrical, plumbing or painting...., the plans to get a home, car or other purchases, the savings for the vacation or post honeymoon, the ring, dress, furniture, extra room or bathroom, cleaning of the garage, landscaping and other "I Owe You" and things on the honey to do list)..... Pray earnestly today:

TODAY'S PRAYER - (Revive Your Heart by Nancy Leigh DeMoss)

Pray that your husband will discover and live his God-given purpose. Pray that he will offer all his dreams to the Lord, and pursue only those goals that will bring God glory and count for eternity. (Jer. 29:11; 1 Cor. 10:31)

Pray as you watch out for those witty inventions and influenced by others goals that compromise his faith and you cause you to lose your home or need a loan or other means to settle.

TODAY'S FOCUS: IT'S TIME FOR A NEW STRATEGY

A wise woman builds her house and does not pluck it down with her mouth!

Don't eat the bread of idleness, but be a wise woman. Help your husband get to the place where God's purpose and plans can be manifested in his life. 

Jeremiah 29:11 (KJV)

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.

ACTIVITY: (get out your journals)

BE A Proverbs 31 Woman STRATEGIST

Make a list of the things that need to get done. unfinished or promises made that have yet to be materialized

Write a strategic plan include name of task, list what needs to be done, when it needs to done and by whom- Please include yourself and see in which area you can assist. 

Initiate a savings plan for an item or vacation

Plan a clean up weekend, sort out the things that you can

Give him a personal journal and ask him to write his dreams, work together or

guide him through the process of accomplishing some of his goals

Please also include the things that were a bad investment or goals that are not in line with the word of God

After praying the scriptures for your husband bring your list up to God in prayer. Be patient through the process. Trust and praise God for the desired and expected outcome.

Remember, God has good plans for you and your husband. He wants to give you hope and a bright future. Use God given wisdom, don't be idle, but strategize using kind words and techniques to bring out the best in your husband. Give give gentle criticism in private, and always compliment and give credit in public. Complain less and praise often.

Speak what you want - You shall have what you say!

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Virtuous Jewel

DAY 24 MATURITY AND FAVOR - 30 DAY PRAYING FOR YOUR HUSBAND CHALLENGE

 MATURITY AND FAVOR

 Maturity brings favor with God and man 

Jesus shows the example in Luke 2:52 (KJV)

And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favour with God and man.  

Don't you wish your husband would stop acting his shoe size and act his age?

• He still plays with the toys he had before you were married
• Prefers to go to work than spend family time
• Refuses to make time to go to church with you but finds the time to hang out long hours with the boys or others
• He sees no need to change his bad habits even if it's affecting the relationship
• Opinionated and refuses to heed to sound advice
• He's all work and no play
• He's all church and no fun 
• All play and no work
• Won't take a vacation, sick or day off even if he is sick 

If this describes your husband pray fervently.....

TODAY'S PRAYER - (Revive Your Heart by Nancy Leigh DeMoss)

Pray that your husband will have a balanced life—that he will balance work and play. Pray that he will fear God, but also gain favor with people he knows at work and church. (Luke 2:52; Prov. 13:15)

Perhaps your husband is not balanced, display laziness, negative attitude and behaviors, and a lack of interest in things of importance.   Some of these result in him being overlooked for a promotion or position at work, and not well spoken of at church, in the community and among his family and friends.  You must pray to help him find a balance.  

TODAY'S FOCUS:  FAVOR COMES TO THE FAITHFUL 

Proverbs 13:15 (KJV)

Good understanding giveth favour: but the way of transgressors is hard. 

Favor comes to the man who uses good sense and is sensible.  A transgressor stops the release of his favor with God and with man. Therefore, it is important for one to seek wisdom and understanding. Don't let your husband loose out on God's favor - It can benefit or affect you.  So let's do the following activity:

ACTIVITY

If you long to see your husband have a more balanced life you may have to take the initiative.   

Most men won't take vacation or even take a day off from work. 

How about planning a get away?                     

Using your wits and wisdom of the Proverbs 31 woman that you are plan a vacation for him. It could be a one day, a weekend, a week or perhaps an afternoon off.  Book a hotel, a cruise or whatever you can afford (since I have you on a budget)- A simple picnic in the park or on the beach would do, give him a break from preaching or teaching let him sit back and relax, allow him to go to his place of retreat (fishing etc...)- no family gatherings or stressful activity.

If he is the all play guy- gently introduce a chore schedule which includes you and the children with his assignments and make it a family affair. Keep praying sisters and as Jesus, he will mature in both body and spirit and obtain favor with God and with all people. 

As you perform this activity look out for him to stop working these long hours and have time for the children and you to do some fun things together- Be ready to spend time in his company 

Remember, Jesus matured, growing up in both body and spirit, blessed by both God and people. A balance life and wisdom will increase favor. Balancing work and play will help lessen stress and bring harmony to the body and relationship. Let Jesus example you measure up - knowledge to age. Mature and Grow UP!

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GOD BLESS YOU AND KEEP THE FAITH!

Virtuous Jewel

DAY 23 A FATHER'S ROLE - 30 DAY PRAYING FOR YOUR HUSBAND CHALLENGE

ESTRANGED FATHERS

Today in many households fathers are present but not involved in the day to day lives of their children. Sad but true they are not a spiritual witness, mothers are left with all the responsibility of disciplines and providing support. There are abuse, neglect, discouragement and abandonment.  

There is the father that makes the promises that has not been kept. Unresolved issues and conflicts, lack of social or other engagements, failure to accept or support- these and other issues crown the homes of many homes including Christian homes.

Some fathers have never said, I love you, I appreciate you or thank you to their children. Some devalue their children, call them names, and provoke them to anger. They have no relationship, and some have not spoken to their children in months or perhaps years.  

Regardless of the circumstances and the lack of your husband ability to lead, direct, instruct and or mentor as a father, he must be given the respect that is due him by you and the children.... Let's pray!

TODAY'S PRAYER - (Revive Your Heart by Nancy Leigh DeMoss)

Pray that your husband will be a good father—disciplining his children wisely and loving them unconditionally. If he is not a father, pray that he will find a young man to mentor in the things of the Lord. (Eph. 6:4; Col. 3:21; 2 Tim. 2:1-2)

If your husband does not have children of his own encourage him to be a good mentor sharing his experience with other young men.

2 Timothy 2:1-2 (KJV)
Thou therefore, my son, be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus.
And the things that thou hast heard of me among many witnesses, the same commit thou to faithful men, who shall be able to teach others also.

TODAY'S FOCUS:  REVERSE ROLE

Sometimes the way to improve a situation is to reverse the role.  Even if you are struggling and challenged- Overcome evil with good. Encourage your children to do good and right to their father.  Let's look at some of your and or the children behavior.....

Have you been encouraging them to react negatively?

Is it an eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth mentality at your house?

He is not a good provider so the children does not respect him?

How have you been speaking to them or to others about him?

Are you encouraging discipline?

Are you undermining him in front of the children?

When he gives an order in the Lord do you or the children follow?

Is he showed love, affection or appreciation?

Is he taken for granted?

Is he considered a bank or an only when I need you dad?

Is he criticized or mocked for things he can't or unable to do?

Is he praised often and in public?

Are you and the children embarrassed of him and displays that openly?

Is he respected as the priest and head of the home?

ACTIVITY:

It may be difficult keeping quiet when you see that your husband is not playing the father role and taking on his responsibility. Perhaps he is not guilty or identified with any of the examples above, but you wish he could do more and be more involved especially spiritually. Today encourage the children to do something special. 
Father's Day has passed, but in order to achieve this victory after you have prayed, get the children engaged with today's challenge. 
Solicit some suggestions from them on what they can do to make today special for their father. You will be amazed at what they may come up with. It does not have to be expensive or cost money, but you can use somethings in the house or their creativity.  Here are a few suggestions:
They can greet him at the door with a special song, dance or welcome Perform one of his chores 
Make a card or poem 
Send a text or a special unexpected phone call
Have them make dinner, eat with him and ask him to share his day
Have a nutritious drink set up next to his favorite chair so he can relax when he comes home
Other..... Be creative, genuine and fun

If your children are discouraged, help them build back their trust in their fathers by encouraging them to pray the scriptures into the lives of their father. Begin by speaking positive affirmation to him. Let them hear you compliment him (genuinely) about the things he is good at. Teach them to respect and honor and pray for their father. Having them on board will strengthen your support and with God's help restore him as a father.

Remember, your reaction should not be as a result of his action. As the Proverbs 31 woman you will seek to speak well of him within the gates, and even if he is not what he should be he will not be evil spoken of by others. Do not encourage the children or others to belittle him, but pray the solution to your situation with praise and thanksgiving for a father outlined in the scriptures. God your Heavenly Father will not hold back the things you ask so keep praying and remain faithful because you serve a faithful God.

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