MEN'S 28 DAYS TO LOVING MY WIFE CHALLENGE DAY 10 - INTIMACY # 4

KNOW HER LOVE PREFERENCE

There is no benefit in doing an act for someone if it does not interest them.  Both the giver and receiver loses.  It can create frustration for both and create relationship issues that can be avoided if you learn their love preference. 

Theme Verse: Ephesians 5:29
For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

Getting ready for that special moment? Moving on to Phase 4

TODAY'S ACTIVITY: LOOK FOR THE HINTS

It's not just about you- Find out what about your spouse love preference.
Are you forcing her to be like an ex, commercial or another admirer?
Are you comparing her to others?
Are you taking time to understand her?
Do you know her "I need you" hints?
Are you selfish and think only about what pleases you?
Are you encouraging her or criticizing her efforts
Are you trying to win her with gifts to take the place of quality time?
Are you abrupt with your affection?
Are you still having difficulty in communicating words of affection, (ie... I love you, I need you, appreciate, care....)?

If you are still challenged visit and review week 1 on Communication to assist you in how to say it.

1 Corinthians 7:2-4 (MSG)
Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out.

Recommend that you read The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman to learn more about your wife's love language preference

Words of Affirmation - Like words to affirm
Acts of Service - Wants to see action
Receiving Gifts - Gifts make them feel loved
Quality Time - Wants your time and undivided attention
Physical Touch - Wants affection through touching, hug/smooch..

Caution: Don't try to tell your spouse what she should like-She is not wired like you.Encourage her to accommodate you not criticize her about being someone else.

Remember,
MARRIAGE IS A TEAM EFFORT-COMMON PURPOSE!
Don't be discouraged if she doesn't receive it at first or perhaps question your motive. Just do it- Get Close up-Watch God in the next 28 days!

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God Bless you and Keep the Faith! 

Virtuous Jewel