MEN'S 28 DAYS TO LOVING MY WIFE CHALLENGE DAY 28 - LEADERSHIP #7

THE CHALLENGE ENDS BUT THE PRACTICE BEGINS! 

Theme Verse: Ephesians 5:29
For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

Today closes our 28 Days To Loving My Wife Challenge. However, you must now put into action the lessons and instructions given to improve your relationship.
You should now be ready to....
Communicate better- Talk and discuss things with her
Be a better intimate partner- Love her and learn her love language
Manage your finances - Plan and budget
Lead and Govern - Lead like Christ

TODAY'S ACTIVITY: THE LEADERSHIP OF CHRIST

Men must follow the leadership of Christ and lead others as Christ leads. Use the Ephesians 5:23-31 Profile of how Christ loves and takes care of the church as your model:

Head of your wife as Christ is the Head and Savior
Your wife must willing obey you in everything
Love your wife as Christ by giving yourself (time/resources) as Christ loved the church
Make your wife holy and clean
Love your wife as your own body
Nourish and cherish your wife as Christ would do to the church
Your wife is a part of your body
Stay connected to wife as one 

Some Things to Remember:

Break the silence and express your love

Listen attentively

Know her love preference

Cultivate Romance

Do you daily diary beginning March 1st

Prepare your budget

Have a personal relationship with Lord

Spend quality time with each of your children and your spouse individually

Caution: Don't keep secrets from your wife-Don't be a man in the dark only-Don't seek advice from friends who do not have their lives together to govern your home-Don't rule like a Pharaoh!

TO BE AN EPHESIANS 5 PROFILE MAN, YOU MUST LOVE HER AND CHERISH HER AS CHRIST LOVES THE CHURCH AND GAVE HIMSELF FOR IT!
Remember, MARRIAGE IS A TEAM EFFORT-COMMON PURPOSE!
Don't be discouraged if she doesn't receive it at first or perhaps question your motive. Just do it- Lead in love!

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MEN'S 28 DAYS TO LOVING MY WIFE CHALLENGE DAY 28 - LEADERSHIP #6

DRINK WATER FROM YOUR OWN CISTERN

The following scripture speaks to the men of enjoying everything from their wife at home.

What say ye?

Proverbs 5:15-21 (KJV)

Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.

Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.

Let them be only thine own, and not strangers' with thee.

Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth

Theme Verse: Ephesians 5:29
For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

COUNTING DOWN.......ONE MORE DAY!

You have received the expectation of a good dad and is now ready to explore your position as a husband!

Are you a notable critic?
Are your conversations with your wife full of sarcasms? '
Is your action as effective as your words?

TODAY'S ACTIVITY: THE LEADERSHIP HUSBAND

Are you an abusive husband? 

Domestic Violence is nestling in the homes of many, not just physically, but emotionally, socially. 

It is said that men can give the silent treatment just as good or even better than women. 

In our lingo (here's the English version) "I'll beat you without touching you" is demonstrated throughout the household.

How do you deal with issues?
Do you leave the house, turn up the volume of TV/Radio..?
Do you support, financially, spiritually, emotionally?
Do you compliment/praise or criticize?
Do you show love and affection outside of the bedroom walls?
Do you encourage your spouse to pursue goals?
Do you help with the children/housework other responsibilities?
Do you have her as a "help meet" or your slave or mother?
Do you trust her?
Do you respect, honor and submit to her?
Do you put your friends, parents/family, exes before her?
Do you meet her needs/desires?
Do you share "everything" with her?
Do you cheat on her?
LET'S TALK
Here are some of your expectations in the position/role as a husband:
Communicate and discuss issues and matters of the home and family
Learn to face and confront matters, they won't go away if you avoid them
Support and provide for her financial, spiritual and emotional needs
Constantly praise and compliment and express your dislike without criticism
Always express love and affection not just sexually but demonstrate daily kindness, gentleness
Encourage her to pursue her dreams/ambitions and offer support
Assist in the discipline and upbringing of the children and share the household chores
Make her feel special and treat her as your equal. She is not to be treated like your maid, servant or slave
Trust her with your life, money and have faith in her
Honor her as the queen of your life, respect her decisions, submit to her requests in the fear/will of God
Beside the Lord, NO ONE should come before her, that includes your mom/dad, other family members, all female/male friends, exes and the church
Your desire to please her should be foremost in your mind and make every effort to meet her needs
Your wife should be your closest friend and should come before anyone else- She should know all your affairs and should not be surprised with anything
Be Satisfied with your wife-Drink water from your own cistern!

DOs' and DON'Ts'
Show affection - Don't correct in public
Speak Positive Affirmations - Don't gossip about her with others. Encourage - Don't criticize, judge or condemn
Listen and Pay Attention - Don't shut down, ignore/neglect
Play and Have Fun - Don't be a grouch and rule like a Pharaoh
Be Available - Don't be an absent husband (physically/emotionally)
Caution: Don't compare her to your mother or ex-girlfriend

Remember, MARRIAGE IS A TEAM EFFORT-COMMON PURPOSE!

Don't be discouraged if she doesn't receive it at first or perhaps question your motive. Just do it- Lead in love!
Watch God in the next 28 days!

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God Bless you and Keep the Faith! 

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MEN'S 28 DAYS TO LOVING MY WIFE CHALLENGE SESSION

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Keep the Faith!

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MEN'S 28 DAYS TO LOVING MY WIFE CHALLENGE DAY 26 - LEADERSHIP #5

THE LOVING FATHER 

The Scripture speaks of a natural father giving gifts to his children-in that if the ask for a fish, they will not be given a scorpion. (Read Matthew 7:9-11)

So a father must ensure that he provides, protects and nurtures his children as the Lord would.  

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Theme Verse: Ephesians 5:29
For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

Before we begin today, I would like to share a poem I memorized in my youth, that sends out a good message! You can read it at your leisure at https://www.wattpad.com/203508670-the-monkey%27s-disgrace

TWO MORE DAYS TO GO! 

Now that you have built a relationship and own up to your responsibility let's explore more of your role as a father! 

TODAY'S ACTIVITY: THE LEADERSHIP FATHER

Today, there are many cases of abandonment, neglect, abuse, resentfulness, violence......

Many children experience the absent father life and are left to fend for themselves at a very early age. As a father, you should not be just a "sperm donar". You should take full responsibility and be accountable for your children.

Here are some of your expectations in the position/role as a father:

Spiritual Example - Be the priest and spiritual leader
Nurture and Admonish - Give love, guidance and discipline
Provide - Food/Shelter/Clothing/Schooling and other necessities of life, wise counsel, friendship, support/encouragement,
Protect - Safeguard from all intruders and the evil one. Cover them in prayer daily.
Quality Time - make time for your children. Treat each one as special as the other. While you have family time, set aside time for each of your children individually/personally
Love and Respect their Mother - Show love, kindness and respect to their mom (whether you are married to them or not). Speak well of her to them and to others
Training - Prepare them for life and the future.Teach and train in various aspects of life, principles/etiquette, how to be respectful, good stewards/investors, give them opportunities to learn
Communication - Communicate with your children so they can be free to speak to you about anything. Share your experiences, expectations of them and plans. Encourage feedback
Example - Be a positive example your children can emulate. Have integrity, be honorable, a positive influence-morally/spiritually/physically/emotionally/socially/ethically.

DOs' and DON'Ts'
Love in public and discipline in private - Don't embarrass
Speak Positive Affirmations - Avoid negative words and curses Encourage and Applaud - Don't criticize, judge or condemn
Listen and Pay Attention - Don't shut down, ignore/neglect
Play and Have Fun - Don't be a grouch and rule like a Pharaoh
Be Available - Don't be an absent father or distant

Caution: Don't substitute quality time with gifts-They both are important, but your children will remember the when dad did this with me moments!
Remember, MARRIAGE IS A TEAM EFFORT-COMMON PURPOSE!

Don't be discouraged if she doesn't receive it at first or perhaps question your motive. Just do it- Lead in love!
Watch God in the next 28 days!

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God Bless you and Keep the Faith!

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MEN'S 28 DAYS TO LOVING MY WIFE CHALLENGE DAY 25 - LEADERSHIP #4

LEADERSHIP IS NOT TO DEMONSTRATE POWER

Theme Verse: Ephesians 5:29

For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

Yesterday, we spoke about the Spiritual Leader and established that the spiritual leader builds a relationship with Jesus Christ to be able to lead his family spiritually.

To be able to govern your family, you must build a relationship with them. You can't govern effectively if you don't know your people and or their needs!

Today, we will move to the second definition of leadershp:
"The state or position of being a leader- directorship, governorship, administration, ascendancy;

TODAY'S ACTIVITY: LEADERSHIP GOVERNMENT

Besides building a relationship with your family, as a leader you must take the responsibility for the home and family.

How you govern and rule as a father and husband would determine that.

As director, how do you direct- Are you leading your family in the right direction in every area of life?
As the governor, how is your ruling-Do you rule as a Pharaoh, what you say goes, no questions ask or it's my way or no way?
In administration, what do you administer-Do you love and nurture, apply grace and demonstrate affection to pain and nurse their hurt, offer good advice, organized and follow a plan, support their goals and ambitions?
In ascendancy, how to you control and influence- Do you occupy the position of a positive influence and control with knowledge, wisdom and understanding?

The position of leadership government is not about you but about your family. It's not stressing your position as the "man of the house" but the servant-ready to serve your family.
It is not a political position to earn votes or points but establishing fair and equitable distribution among the family members.
It is not to criticize the mistakes but give opportunities to learn valuable lesson and provide encouragement.
It is also to be open and share your plans, provide clarity as you administer direction and or discipline.
Lead with positive affirmation, demonstration to impact and influence change.
Lead as God leads as as He requires you to do.

Here's your guide for your spouse:
Ephesians 5:25-28 (KJV)
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself

Use this guide for your Children:
Ephesians 6:4 (KJV)
And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

Caution: "RESPONSIBILITY IS NOT POWER!"
Use the golden rule and ask in your directing, governing, administering and influencing, what would Jesus do?  THEN DO IT!!!!

Remember, MARRIAGE IS A TEAM EFFORT-COMMON PURPOSE!

Don't be discouraged if she doesn't receive it at first or perhaps question your motive. Just do it- Get it Together First! Watch God in the next 28 days!

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MEN'S 28 DAYS TO LOVING MY WIFE CHALLENGE DAY 24 - LEADERSHIP #3

PRIEST OF THE HOME 

Theme Verse: Ephesians 5:29
For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

Who is the spiritual leader in your home?
Is it your wife or saved child/children?
Do you have a PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP with Jesus? (not just church attendance)

You may not be called to preach or teach, but it does not excuse you from being the Priest of your home. This is your stage for leading God's people (your family) with respect for God and the principles of life such as integrity, honesty, reverence etc...

Sabbath Shalom!

TODAY'S ACTIVITY - SPIRITUAL LEADER

God gave a government model for the home:

Christ-Husband-Wife - How does that work? 

Look at the character and life of Christ and reflect on Ephesians 5:25. 

The character of Christ is based on love. 

Therefore, as a spiritual leader, every word, action or behavior should be demonstrated in love.

When last....
You went to church with your family?
Gave a call to worship, prayer or spiritual declaration in your home?
Provide spiritual guidance/support? (not preaching to or at)
Offered encouragement to your wife/children?
Demonstrated what you preach through prayer discipline, bible reading habits and spiritual involvement?

Take a spiritual initiative for yourself and or family?

These should be in the profile of a spiritual leader:

• You must be the most honorable and respected man your family will ever know. Like the Proverbs 31 Woman, you must be known for spiritual and natural influence. 
• You must be characterized by integrity and tend to the well being of your family. 
• While weekly church attendance is in order, your spirituality should not be based only on making sure your family goes to church but that you go with them. When you are the priest and spiritual leader of your home, you will bring that fragrance to join with other believers in fellowship. 
• Your spiritual leadership includes providing support and encouragement applauding efforts and praying their strength in areas where they are weak. 
• Your life should represent what you teach them-Not "do as I say and not as I do" lifestyle.
• You must have a relationship with Jesus Christ to be an effective leader.

Caution: Don't mix spiritual leadership in the home with church leadership as an assignment or calling of God! Don't use you not being a Christian to not be the spiritual leader in your home-it's much more than that! The husband rules the house- Christ runs and governs the church!

Jesus was a "servant" leader - Be the example of Christ you want your family to follow! 

Declare like Joshua: 

"but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord." Joshua 24:15.

Remember, MARRIAGE IS A TEAM EFFORT-COMMON PURPOSE!

Don't be discouraged if she doesn't receive it at first or perhaps question your motive. Just do it- Get it Together First!
Watch God in the next 28 days!

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God Bless and Keep the Faith!

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MEN'S 28 DAYS TO LOVING MY WIFE CHALLENGE DAY 23 - LEADERSHIP #2

A MAN OR MANICOU

Theme Verse: Ephesians 5:29
For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

Have you figured out your role or are you just doing what you are told to do?

Are you a man or a manicou? 

This old adage question is used to question the manliness of men when they are acting out of character of their manhood.

A little bit of "serious humor" - Here's my version:
A man was out with his friends and they were all talking about their wives and how they ran things in the home. It was getting late and he was being teased that his wife would get him. They coached him and told him when she says anything to tell her that he is the man of the house and what he says goes.
He went home and as he approached his wife jumped him asking, where have you been. He dashed under the bed. With a broomstick in her hand she ordered him out from other the bed. As she orders and threatens him, he shouts.....
I AM THE MAN OF THE HOUSE AND WHAT I SAY GOES...
I AM NOT COMING OUT and when I say, I'M NOT COMING OUT, I'M NOT COMING OUT!!!!

Hilarious huh? Is that how you are in charge?

TODAY'S ACTIVITY - LARGE AND IN CHARGE

Your role as the man (head) of the home is an important one.
It goes far beyond lip service and words.

The old addage question, are you a man or a manicou provokes the following: 

Do you have the backbone to stand up and perform your role as the head as ordered by the Lord?
Do you provide guidance, direction, supervision, discipline to the children or do you leave it up to your wife alone?
Do you control and manage the affairs or relate to your wife on difficult issues?
Do people know that and respect you are the authorative figure in the home?
Do you take the lead to ensure that matters are resolved?
Do you procrastinate?
Do you allow others to take care of your manly responsibilities?

HOW YOU LARGE AND IN CHARGE:

You must have the backbone to stand up as the head of the home and not be a coward.
You must provide your family with guidance and direction
You must supervise with loving support and discipline in love
You must be in the forefront of all the affairs of your home and not hide or go silent on difficult issues
If you give permission to your spouse or children, you must follow through and inquire if the matter was resolved and taken care of
Your wife, children and others must know you as the authorative figure and not known as a whimp, whussy or manicou
You must follow through on matters of the home until they are resolved and seek help in matters beyond your control
You must take care of matters within a reasonable time frame
You must not give the responsibilities that is yours to others

To convince the gainsayers you must be a model first!

Titus 1:8-9 Living Bible (TLB)
They must enjoy having guests in their homes and must love all that is good. They must be sensible men, and fair. They must be clean minded and level headed.
Their belief in the truth that they have been taught must be strong and steadfast so that they will be able to teach it to others and show those who disagree with them where they are wrong.

Caution: Watch your behavior in that role- You are setting an example for your sons or other young men, and you are also telling your daughter that men should treat her how you treat her mother!

Learn to face the music-You will dance to the music you create!

Remember, MARRIAGE IS A TEAM EFFORT-COMMON PURPOSE!
Don't be discouraged if she doesn't receive it at first or perhaps question your motive. Just do it- Get it Together First!
Watch God in the next 28 days!

Please leave your comments, and help another brother by sharing this post!

#28daystolovingmywife
Taking the risk-training to enhance your marriage and give the next generation a change to emulate.

God Bless you and Keep the Faith! 

Virtuous Jewel